July 14, 2007 at 11:37 pm
· Filed under Family, Girl Stuff, Reflections
Motherhood is one of the biggest accomplishments and biggest challenges of my life so far. Before I was a Mom, I did lots of things - I taught gymnastics full time, I traveled to far off places (often on my own) and I spent plenty of Sunday afternoons doing jigsaw puzzles. Then there were the social things like going out to lunch with friends, taking weekend getaways with my husband, and business functions. Who says that when you become a Mom, that all these things must stop? I don’t think they have to.
I have met too many Mommies who have given it all up for Motherhood. They lose their sense of self and their often their happiness.
Here are my top 3 reasons why Moms need a life, too!Â
3. Because coffee with your girlfriends is cheaper than therapy. Just having someone to vent with and share some giggles with can go a long way to happiness and maintaining your sense of self.
2. Because your kids should not be better dressed than you. By taking the time and effort to dress in something better than sweats and t’s each day, you teach your children (by example) that taking care of yourself is important.
1. Because one day, your kids will all be grown! What do you want to be when your kids grow up? Why wait that long? Start working and living those dreams and goals now. You and your family will be better for it!
Now, I am sure we can add to this list. Give me your reasons why Moms need a life, too.
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Laura wrote @ July 15th, 2007 at 9:46 am
This is so true! It’s important to be a parent, but don’t forget to be yourself too …
Andrea wrote @ July 15th, 2007 at 10:02 am
You really hit it on the head with those 3..
Unfortunately as I write here, I am ignoring my children, letting them mess up the house, and yes… dressed in sweats and a t.
Maybe I could add - that so often kids grow up not appreciating their parents, so you may as well preserve some of ‘you’ during this journey..
I love you Mom and Dad 
Lucy wrote @ July 15th, 2007 at 2:18 pm
And … so that your children (perhaps especially your girl-children) see that people who happen to be mothers can also have valued, interesting, important stuff to do that isn’t ‘being a mother’.
Unless we role-model ‘doing stuff outside the home’ how will they learn? By ’stuff’ here, I mean not just paid work, whether done from work or from home, but voluntary work, community things, adult activities. Children need to see that being an adult can be interesting and fun, no matter what lifestyle they choose!
Angie wrote @ July 16th, 2007 at 3:12 am
My liofe is so different than before I had my daughter. I have different friends, different hobbies, I even read different books. I DO need time with my friend alone, though, and I should make it my next big goal.
Joanne wrote @ July 16th, 2007 at 8:49 am
Ladies, your comments hit home to me too. There is a distinct difference between my life as a single professional woman and my life now as a mother of 3 children. It used to be that I only worried about myself. Now I only worry about everyone else! One way that I’ve kept some sense of individual identity and purpose is by starting my own home based business. I love it! When I’m working people see me as me, not as Mum. I get out of my sweats and into decent clothes. Just wearing nice clothes makes you feel better about yourself. Mums definitely need a life outside of the family. By creating that life you can contribute more to your family and those around you. If you want to know more about home based businesses you’re welcome to visit my blog.
Great list! It is important for kids to see that their parents have wants, needs and desires - A LIFE! - outside of the home!
Jane, P&B Girls
Angela wrote @ July 16th, 2007 at 7:48 pm
If Mom’s don’t have a life too then they won’t be very good Moms and they won’t be very good friends to their kids when their kids are grown up and have a life of their own.
Homemom3 wrote @ July 17th, 2007 at 7:45 pm
I kind of have a post on this char, not sure if it counts. I just posted it.
kathylynn wrote @ October 19th, 2007 at 4:47 pm
I couldn’t agree more with this. It is so easy to forget who you are while raising kids but so important that you remember.
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