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I have a feeling this is going to be right up there with Moment of Truth in my book.

It seems like reality television is turning to destroying families by deceptive means.

I believe that giving a woman a chance at the dream she gave up is sending the message to her family that she may have made the wrong choice - and in essence is much like the proverbial apple of temptation.

Once the mom has had a taste - can she go back to the life her family is used to?

I’m not a fan of the idea at all to be honest.

Oh my, what a premise.

I don’t recall EVER going to the spa when I was a SAHM. In fact, I think I went for a 2-year period without getting my hair cut. I suppose this ranks right up there with all the shows my husband complains about though - the ones that portray men as idiots? He hates all of them because of the misperception it puts out there about men - although I find them very funny.

I suppose this show may get the same reaction.

This is a bunch of baloney. I’m not really surprised of course, and let’s hope the show is not successful.

Frankly, it’s my opinion that there is NOTHING you see on these shows that is even remotely REALITY. Just my opinion, of course…

And - with rare exception - they all play to the “dark side” of human nature.

This show is stupid. If you are a SAHM…you made your career choice and should be thanking God everyday that you are able to do this. Not everyone is as lucky as you. I work with many that wish they had a husband that could carry the finacial load. I am a single mom who has to work…

I didn’t see the trailer, but I wonder what is wrong with giving up a career to be a stay at home mom? For many of us, it is “having it all.” Moreover, why does one have to give up a career to be home with the kids? Many of us are living our dream by working at home.

And a spa? I’ve never been and I resent that women are always shown as needing pampering to get over their tough lives.

Like you, I don’t like the idea of the mother lying to her family. If she wants a career, why not just come out and say it? My family would be more supportive of my leaving them to go look for a job than my leaving them to get a facial. I think reality television doesn’t promote family values and we need to work on getting that back.

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I’m sorry, did the Mommy Wars go somewhere? Was there some consensus between working versus stay-at-home moms that occured when I wasn’t looking?

I had the opposite impression. I saw an interview with Tracy Gold about this show and I thought it would provide a good perspective of the opposite choice. She also said the show highlights the fact that different choices work best for different families.

I think both sides tend to think of their own choice as “right” and the other as “wrong.” I don’t think either perspective is very objective. Both sides get extremely defensive about thier choice as the “only way.” Which, I think is unnecessary.

I think the show looks insightful and eye-opening and might create a bridge between the two worlds. I’m hopeful. I like TLC’s programming though - I tend to think their perspective is not inflamatory, as some channels tend to be, as much as increasing understanding for whoever’s life they highlight.

Also my impression from the trailers is that these are women who might feel conflicted. I feel conflicted - am I missing something that could be more fulfilling? I vaccilate like crazy about my writing career and staying at home. I got the impression that these are women who DO or DID have big professional dreams and ambitions and they might feel like they can’t do both due to familial cercumstances.

I’m excited for the show. I’ll definately DVR it and I might even watch it with my daughter.

You know, I have had a post in the back of my mind for a while….where have all the morals gone?

In my opinion there are more women who could stay home if they wanted to but they have to work because their families have built lifestyles way beyond their means. I think that there are many children out there who need stay at home moms but today’s society says that we have to work to make us feel fulfilled and to keep up with the Jones’s.

Ok… I am tired of the mommy wars.. which I think are way exaggerated by the media. I’m part of a private mothers board that’s a mix of everyone. We have SAH, WAH, WOH, part time, etc. The funny thing is we all respect each others right to make their own choices and the rights of individual families to be different. In general we all get along and when we don’t things are discussed in a spirit of discussion and not a war.

I have a problem with that show because 1) It makes it sound like it has to be a secret if a SAHM wants to work 2) It makes it sound like we need some stupid TV show to give us our dream. Quite frankly I plan on making my dream. A show about families making things work in different ways would rock. One that makes it all secret and hush hush sounds just more divisive. Now I may have to watch an episode to see if it’s better then it sounds… but first glance it seems bad.

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[…] Some folks were a little bothered by the secretive nature of the show, but I just chalked it up to the fact that it’s on TV. I mean, how else were they going to get those moms out of the house? I know if I want to leave for a day I have to book it like 3 weeks in advance, call in major reinforcements and clear it with a slew of people. Anyway, *spoiler alert* at the end of the show, Ms. Stark does a great job, gets the job of her dreams and accepts a full-time position with the designer. Dad seemed truly happy for her and the kids were thrilled. (This is the part where I got a lump in my throat.)  It was sweet, really. You could tell that she loved staying at home with her kids, but wanted to try something new, so kudos to her! […]

I also have to take issue with this show - so much so that I wrote about it in my personal blog too. I just don’t think that anything about the SAHM going back to work in this context is realistic (although given what’s on TV now I guess I shouldn’t be surprised) and it does a disservice to women who’ve worked hard to juggle and stay in the workforce and earn their dream job. It also doesn’t do much for the SAHM image either.

I disagree with all of you. I think the show is a fun and great idea. TLC is not usually exploitative of families like other sensational networks are.

And many moms are pursuing their dreams and raising great families. What if a mom is a really great singer? Or a great baker? Maybe now is the right time in her life to pursue her dream.

Give these women a break! They’re not abandoning their families, for crying out loud.

Ladies, lighten up. Haven’t you learned that all reality shows, are not ALL REALITY!?!?!

The way I see this show is the women obviously made a great and honorable choice in putting children first, now they had a fun opportunity to re-visit the career/dream they gave up for their family. Who knows, they may decide it’s not worth it. But, wow, let’s give women some credit it putting family first and then allowing them to even consider an option.

Not to mention, maybe some of the dads would want to take a shot a being home more. Maybe, they have a great family support system. Geeeze, opinionated and close minded ladies, don’t give yourself a bad name. In the first episode, the children did not seem devistated, nor did the dad, he was so happy and proud to see is wife give a little back to herself. She may not keep the job forever, that’s what life is about, making decisions along the way. No one forced her, if she felt it was the wrong time or not good for her family, she could have passed.

I’m a stay at home mom…proud and happy and lucky to be. But I can’t say I haven’t had days when I miss being challenged as a professional person, rather than just making sure the laundry is done and I have a new craft project for Easter.

Lighten up and open ones mind.

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I find the show very important to many stayed-at-home moms and getting a chance to pursue their career after their children are grown.

I am trying to locate the address so I can send my letter to so I can pursue my career after being a stayed-at-home-mom.

So far I cannot find the address or the steps of how to get a response. Does anybody knows the address or the steps of how to get on the show?

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